I recommend setting goals to achieve for the intrinsic rewards not external approval from other people.
The ability to walk in “go-big-or-go-home” stilettos that cripple your feet just to prove you’re hot.
The getting on a hedonic treadmill to acquire more and more things that clutter your apartment.
The faking it over and over to prove you’re normal to people who are going to judge you for being “crazy.”
The holding of other people accountable for determining how you feel about yourself.
The living with endless insecurities instead of lowering the VU meter on your thoughts so that you can live life in balance: left of the dial.
It goes on and on when a person continually seeks other people’s approval.
I say: do what’s right for you. Live YOUR life in YOUR style.
In my book Flourish I talk in detail about acting true to yourself to combat the stigma.
The Ziggy Marley song “True to Myself” is an anthem. I attended a Ziggy Marley concert where I first heard that song and had to buy the CD it was on.
It can be hard when other people in society don’t give you recognition. Like when Ralph Ellison wrote in his classic book that he was an invisible man because no one saw him.
There’s a solution: seek intrinsic rewards like a job well done or the high of a good workout.
Each of us can hold ourselves in high esteem when others do not.
It takes courage to live with a mental illness. It takes confidence to do your own thing when society abandons you.
I’ll end here by telling readers that doing your own thing IS the way to combat stigma.
I’ll return on Thursday with more ideas about this.