Changing Course

A book published recently extols the virtues of quitting instead of hanging in forever at a job or in a situation that isn’t going well.

The expression “Quitters never win and winners never quit” does NOT apply to sticking it out in a job or another endeavor that’s making you miserable.

Finding your true joy in life often only happens after you’ve failed big time doing something you originally convinced yourself you wanted to do. I’m going to trot out my one-trick pony example of how I bombed out with smashing success in my first career in the gray flannel insurance field.

I was laid off from four out of the five jobs I held from 1990 to 1997. People back then would ask me what I did and I’d say: “I’m professionally unemployed.” It was like making a career out of not having a career.

No job I held lasted longer than 19 months. I kid you not. I job hopped so often that I could hop along better than the Easter Bunny.

One employer simply called me up on the telephone and told me not to come in the next day and not to come in at all after that. Yes: I was laid off via the telephone. I got a special dispensation to come into the office so I could retrieve my gym bag I’d left under my desk the day I went home sick with a cold.

I got a cold and three days later my employer called me at home and told me not to return. String the violins.

It takes courage to change course. Suze Orman famously tells people not to go back to school for a degree when they’ve been laid off. Pay her no attention if getting a degree IS going to help you get a job in the long-term.

I went back to school for a Masters in Library and Information Science even though I was unemployed. I had no guarantee I’d get a job in the field yet the job I wanted required that you have a masters degree.

This story is like everything else I often tell you: unusual. I will return in here with the remarkable story of how I decided to go back to school. I went back to school 10 years after I was diagnosed.

There is hope dear readers. Feel free to laugh out loud when you envision me hopping along like the Easter Bunny.


Added Attraction – Extra Blog Entry

I wanted to publish an extra blog entry today after having read an Atlantic magazine news article on Twitter. It quoted research that 70 to 80 percent of individuals living with schizophrenia want to work and think they’re capable of working.

The Atlantic article said it’s their doctors who tell their patients they can’t work. I have in these various incarnations of my blog for the last nine years railed against the mental health staff who have a dim view of what patients diagnosed with schizophrenia can do in their lives.

I have always championed that in my own life I recovered BECAUSE I found the jobs I love and that I’m good at. I wasn’t able to do these jobs because I had recovered. I will always claim that it is the other way around: I recovered only after I found the careers I loved.

In New York City: Baltic Street AEH, Inc. provides advocacy employment and housing for individuals with mental illnesses. Baltic Street has an employment agency with two locations in Brooklyn. The staff there help people get and keep jobs they like and would be good at too.

The day is here. Today is the day when not only it’s possible to recover it’s possible to have a full and robust life equal to people in society who don’t have mental illnesses.

If you are a mental health staff person I urge you to take the long view and consider that your clients can indeed work at some kind of job. It might not always be a JD or MD. It might be a job in Rite Aid. It could be as the CEO of a corporation like my friend was able to do.

I urge readers to consider doing what I do. My first thought is NOT “This is impossible” or “I won’t be able to do this.” My automatic thought is “How can I make this happen?”

If you have a goal of any kind–to get a job, to live in your own apartment, whatever–I’ll be the first to tell you that you have right inside yourself what you need to succeed.

And if you want to get a job you can go to your local neighborhood library and ask if at a branch in their system a librarian helps people create resumes. Resume help is available at libraries in Brooklyn, NY.

Turn over every stone. Be creative. If a solution isn’t immediately available, see what you can do differently using your own strengths and your external support system.

Remember: I’m confident when I tell readers that I recovered BECAUSE I found the jobs I love.

If you want to work, you deserve to try. I will devote more blog entries here to this topic in the future.

Getting a Job with a Chronic Illness

I’m going to start in this Flourish blog to create capsule collections of topics linked to my own experiences in recovery. My goal is to uplift and inspire readers to dare to dream that living a full and robust life is possible even though you have a mental health challenge or any other challenge.

This blog entry will be the first one for the careers collection.

A book was already written on this topic: I’d Rather Be Working by Gail Backstrom. She wrote the book to guide individuals who have chronic illnesses to getting and keeping a job rather than collecting a government disability check. The book was published easily seven years ago.

I didn’t know whether I’d be successful when I dared risk getting a job as an administrative assistant in 1990 when no one else with schizophrenia was employed or dared dream of getting a job. As I wrote in last week’s Left of the Dial blog I took the risk not because I thought I would succeed. I took the risk because not trying would’ve been a greater shame to me than trying my best and failing.

The HealthCentral editorial team wrote in a news article: “The only real failure is the failure to try.” I’ve been the Health Guide for HealthCentral’s schizophrenia website for nine years now. I could not believe when I saw that quote that the editorial team had the guts to come right out and tell readers this.

In recovery as in life there are no guarantees. You have to fail big and to fail often before you can get to where you ultimately want to be in life. Perfection is a myth because it implies there can be no growth.

I don’t know what’s worse: being afraid to risk doing something new or being afraid to fail at something you do.

Always wanting to be certain or wanting to always do┬áthe right thing is a merciless creed to uphold. It’s an impossible standard to live up to.

I will come back in here on Monday with a great Theodore Roosevelt quote.

The ADA Act is 25 years old this Sunday. That’s something to celebrate for all of us individuals with chronic illnesses or any type of illness or challenge who want to work.

Would you rather be working?

You deserve to try. And if the first job or career doesn’t work out, I’ll talk next week about the beauty of changing course.