This is a Mother’s Day greeting to every women reading this blog entry. It’s thought that all women are mothers in some way taking care of other people.
My mother turned 80 this year. I’m 53 now. In 1987 when I was 22 I was diagnosed with schizophrenia. My mother had driven me to the hospital within 24 hours of my breakdown.
This greeting goes out to every mother whose adult children and or the mental health staff have blamed them for what happened to their kids.
Ever since I decided to become a mental health Advocate in 2002 – over 15 years so far – I’ve credited my mother’s one courageous act to drive me to the hospital as the number-one reason I recovered. Recovered with an ed at the end of recover because of my mother.
I will go to my grave championing getting the right treatment right away when a person first experiences mental or emotional distress.
My mother isn’t well. For 40 years she smoked two packs a day. Though she quit when she was 61 it was too late to prevent smoking-related disability. She has emphysema because of her addiction. Today she sleeps and travels everywhere with an oxygen tank.
Though I’m the one diagnosed with schizophrenia I’ve become my mother’s caregiver. Unlike how a lot of mothers are the caregivers for their adult kids with schizophrenia.
No one at mental health organizations like NAMI talk about this reverse dynamic: how adult children are becoming caregivers for their parents. Hell NAMI isn’t even addressing the mental health needs of senior citizens living with mental health issues.
What will happen after our parents are gone and we have no one to care for us?
I’m fortunate that I’ve recovered and have always been independent. I will continue to be fit and active because of my own efforts.
Yet what will happen to people diagnosed with schizophrenia who can’t care for themselves after their parents are gone?
What will happen to our parents if we can’t care for them when we’re older?
Nobody’s talking about this. Not NAMI. Not anyone else.
Over five years ago I first wrote about geriatric psychiatry when I was the Health Guide at the HealthCentral schizophrenia website.
Back then I was a pioneer in writing about this. Today I’m still a lone wolf crying out about senior citizens with mental health issues.
We need to think about the passing of this health baton. We need to get real and start talking about the services and supports available to people with schizophrenia and other illnesses that are becoming senior citizens.
We need to talk about the reality that soon those of us who are caregivers will need someone to take care of us.
I’ll end here by sending every women reading this blog entry words of compassion, appreciation, and gratefulness for all you do.